Write your own wedding vows, in your own words
Personal wedding vows are short, but every word feels important. Share how you met, what you love about your partner and the promises you want to make. Your todo.is agent drafts heartfelt vows that sound like you, about one minute long, and formats them for a small vow card or booklet.
The prompt
- Help me write my wedding vows to [PARTNER'S NAME]. We met [HOW YOU MET], and we have been together [HOW LONG]. What I love about them: [WHAT YOU LOVE]. Promises I want to make, serious and playful: [PROMISES]. Tone: [TONE]. Keep it to about 1 minute when spoken (around 150 words), in simple words I can say without stumbling. Structure: a short memory, what they mean to me, my promises as "I promise" lines, and a closing line. Give me 2 different versions, a PDF vow card sized 5x7 inches with a clean layout, and tell me if any line is hard to say out loud. Our ceremony is [CEREMONY TYPE], so keep it suitable.
What to change
- [PARTNER'S NAME]: The name you call them, e.g. "Sam".
- [HOW YOU MET]: e.g. "in a delayed train in Lyon" or "through mutual friends at a barbecue".
- [HOW LONG]: e.g. "six years".
- [WHAT YOU LOVE]: Specific details, e.g. "how you sing while cooking; how calm you are when I panic".
- [PROMISES]: e.g. "to always listen; to share the last slice; to keep exploring new places with you".
- [TONE]: e.g. "romantic and simple", "heartfelt with a little humor" or "poetic".
- [CEREMONY TYPE]: e.g. "a church wedding", "a civil ceremony" or "a casual beach ceremony". Some religious ceremonies have set vows, so check with your officiant.
Example result
- Version 1: heartfelt with a little humor
- Sam, six years ago we were stuck on a delayed train in Lyon, and you offered me half your croissant and the window seat. I didn't know then that I was meeting my home.
- You sing while you cook, badly and with total confidence. You stay calm when I panic, and you make hard days feel smaller. With you, I have become braver and kinder.
- So today, in front of everyone we love, I make you these promises.
- I promise to listen, even when I think I already know what you'll say.
- I promise to share the last slice, most of the time.
- I promise to keep exploring with you, on trains that are on time and the ones that aren't.
- I promise to choose you, on easy days and hard ones, for the rest of my life.
- You are my favourite person and my best adventure. I love you.
- Version 2: simple and romantic
- Sam, from the moment we met, you felt familiar, like a song I already knew.
- You are my calm, my laughter and my safest place. You believe in me when I forget to.
- Today I promise to love you honestly and patiently. I promise to stand beside you in joy and in sorrow. I promise to grow with you, to forgive quickly, and to keep making a home wherever we are together.
- All that I am is yours. Today, tomorrow and always.
- Notes for the day
- • Both versions take 60 to 75 seconds at a calm pace
- • Agree with your partner on a rough length so your vows feel balanced
- • Hand the vow card to your officiant or a friend before the ceremony
How to do it with todo.is
- Copy the prompt and replace each [bracket] with your own memories, promises and tone.
- Paste it into todo.is, or message it to your agent on Telegram or WhatsApp. Keep the chat private if you want it to be a surprise.
- Your agent sends two versions of your vows and a printable vow card PDF.
- Mix lines from both versions, then ask for a final pass like "make the ending stronger" or "cut 20 seconds".
Tips for a better result
- One small, specific memory is more moving than big general words like "soulmate".
- Mix serious and light promises. A playful promise gives everyone a smile before the emotional ending.
- Read your vows out loud three times before the day. Swap any word you trip over.
- Agree on length and tone with your partner, even if you keep the words secret.
- Ask your agent to remember your vows, so it can help you write an anniversary letter that echoes them later.
wedding vows: FAQ
- How long should wedding vows be? Most personal vows are about one minute, roughly 120 to 200 words. That is long enough to be meaningful without making guests wait in the sun.
- What should I include in my wedding vows? A short memory or what drew you to your partner, what they mean to you, a few clear promises and a closing line. Specific details make them personal.
- Can we write our own vows in a religious ceremony? It depends on the tradition and the officiant. Some ceremonies use set vows and let you add personal words at the reception instead, so ask early.
- Should we share our vows with each other before the wedding? Many couples keep the words secret but agree on length and tone. Some share them with the officiant so they are balanced.
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